He always makes his schedules according to his friends schedules and if I wanna spend any time with him I have to change my schedules. He has issues, related to Pyrones disease. We must set boundaries and stick to them so we dont keep ending up here! I just want to have a nice time, an interesting conversation. I gave him the benefit of the doubt too many times. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years. Your Aries guy might not be texting you back because he doesnt enjoy small talk or having long conversations over text. Right now I feel like Im an inconvenience to him. I havent felt loved in so long and ever since we started doing long distance, I feel like Im always putting in effort to do a lot of small things for him just to cheer him up but he doesnt think about doing anything special for me. Ive been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years now, i love him and I know he loves me back but, my biggest insecurity is him changing and being lazy in the relationship, which I have noticed he has been doing lately. I dont know what he wants from me. I know thats not what you want to hear. And what if something bad happened to him which I hope not at least I know who to contact. He doesnt pay me a visit at our house- he actually did, 3 times to be exact (there was a celebration in those times). Honestly he may need some space. As he knows that everyone has me do everything for everyone. Its insane. You need to rest your hopes, dreams and future on a love that never fails, a river that never runs dry. Then keep being the fabulous person that you are. Hi! Its about dealing with regret, coping with guilt, and healing shame. I am so sorry you are going through this. He did call me every morning like he said for a week. He used to be very motivated and neat. Seriously WTF? I am this woman. You may have to loosen your attachment and allow your boyfriend to withdraw or even leave. He felt his place was his and he wanted to keep his place sacred and clean! Im in college and so is he. He has never had a serious relationship so he doesnt know that we could have gone through it together. Every time I ask, he gets upset, and starts an argument, so why do I bother? Its like Im wrapped around his finger but he doesnt want to care and so its hard for me to let go because I truly love him but hes not the same with me. Yes I agree me with Kristina. SO , I DONT KNOW BUT IM FEELING AT THE END OF MY ROPE. I have since ended the relationship as I feel it is a one way system with him taking and not giving. Even on weekends hes working and most days he cant even have dinner at home with me bc his other entrepreneur jobs are calling. This yr it was Quarantine and so he always wanted to have his own anime character and I made it after puting so much efforts. Another thing is that my relationship with him heavily influenced my religion. As stated above, knowing what your boyfriend is going through (ex trauma, personal grief, work load) is important and all, but also knowing how you would act if you were in a similar situation gives you answers and peace. But he makes time for his boys and gaming everyday. I really love him and care for him. At last my mom knew everything and i wasnt allowed to talk to him.. His family are complicated, we rushed into our relationship, live together almost 5 years. Like, if they arent happy anymore, why not tell us so we can move on? I accepted bread crumbs, while continuing to give and give and give. Also expected to cook, clean, do the laundry, take care of our pet. That being said, on Christmas or birthdays or Valentines day, I expect something. Communicate with him without fighting. As it turns out hes none of these things. You wish your boyfriend was as attentive and loving as he was at the beginning of your relationship. What do I do? He was grateful but got me nothing. time and time again i have told him why i was upset, what he could do to make the situation better and everything in between, yet he still does nothing. A couple weeks ago, we went to a show which was our first date in a long time. Did your boyfriend stop making an effort because hes distracted or stressed about something else in his life? Hello Crystal, I am very interested in what you have said, do you mind to give more details please? In all reality if he is losing interest youll know in time. Hi girl, Im in the same situation right now. He Finds Your Attention Diverted. I reslect to my culture. I encouraged him to ask for help through his cohort and luckily one of them came through and got him this great job at the investment firm he works at. Let YOU be your super woman! We have been talking for almost a month. I'm Laurie, creator of Uprooted She Blossoms and author of Growing Forward When You Can't Go Back. Its more about him being a hero. I really love this article. And if you need help deciding what to do about a boyfriend who isnt making an effort in your relationship, you can share your story in the comments section below. Youre not alone my girl xxx, My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2yrs now, everything was all good until the beginning of 2019,he started to distance himself from me, one day I received a text message from a strange number asking me if I know my boyfriend and if we are dating, I was calm and honest when I answered the text, I went to whatsapp and checked the number out and I saw the photo, it was a lady texting me, I asked her who she was and she said she was just a friend to my guy and she noticed that lately my guy has been stressed and she thought it was a lady stressing her, thats why she snooped on his phone and got my number, all this time I remained calm, thee following day I decided to go to my boyfriend house without informing him, it was around 10pm, I met with the same lady their, my guy was not around, I got inside the house and the lady went straight to sit at the bed while I was sitting at the chair, I couldnt wait any longer I went home, I couldnt get in touch with the guy on phone, his phone was off, the following day this same lady called me at around 7pm telling me that my boyfriend is sick, I went to his house and I found the lady with my guy sitting on the bed very close, I was still calm I said hi and I sat on the chair, this lady excused herself and left me with my guy, I asked him who was the lady and he told me that his best friend was dating Herr so they are just good friends, we spoke and everything was good, the following day in the morning this lady text me and tells me why I came to break that guys heart, the guy told the lady that I had come to break up with him, that I told him I found another man, I never said anything like that, why was my guy lying? i know i should understand his busy schedule. but thats what made me fall in love with him and now that i feel like the efforts arent made or not even made but not wanted, not driven, not desired as he felt before. Give him some space to work on his stuff and go easy on him for a bit. How much do you know about his life, family, friends and job? Despite me working on being explicitly clear- he still hasnt been willing or able to meet my needs. Then nothing. When this happens occasionally, it's normal, but consider it a red flag if it's happening constantly. I wish he understood how confused and unloved this makes me feel. ps. its just do not putting attention at all. to think I was already 32 years old still got fooled by a man. We met and it was pretty much an instant connection. He only tells me he loves me on text hardly to my face until I say it first. We havent been intimate in almost 2 years and when I asked him he says hes not turned on ? And youll likely receive the same treatment. Hes always been so affectionate towards me, always wanted us to be happy so we got together. He may be afraid to show sensitivity, make sure to let him know that its okay for him to cry. If every word out of your mouth is an insult, a critique, or disparaging remark, Anniversaries, birthdays etc. "Life happens and things often get in the way of plans you and your partner may have made," says dating expert and counselorDavida Rappaport. We would stay up all night calling for hours, thats how we learned the most about each other. You are going to find happiness. Hopefully, these reasons will let you know the answer if you are wondering why did he stop talking to me. (He still didnt) I asked him to please text me if he was going to be late and he got upset with me. The one girl has sent him particularly sweet friendly messages on Whatsapp a few times so Im even more jealous than I already was. Wow, this article was just what I wanted to hear, Im currently on a break with my boyfriend, he doesnt put effort at all and I had finally reached breaking point, I have to complain about something before he does something about it, one day I broke my hand and he was busy entertaining his boss and colleagues and he never took time to step aside and ask how Im doing. Its sad. Weve been together for almost 3 years and Ive stuck out the lack of attention for about a year and it really hurt. I dont do things just to expect it in return but you just want reassurance that youre appreciated. This is where my first question comes in: how well do you know your boyfriend? I read this article today because today he laughed at me when I put on a dress that wasnt low cut or revels my chest. I dont know what to do or how to feel.. Im trying to figure out if its his depression thats making him stress to make more money as well as not doing anyrhjng for me or the home we live in, or if he truly doesnt care for me or my feelings and Im just here for the mean time to do things for him? I could write a book about the unfolding sh*t show rollercoaster I worried from that start of meeting the man of my dreams would end up being. When we are together he is so sweet and wonderful. My boyfriend is Lebanese and given the situation there (economic crisis, unemployment rate and poverty rate are getting higher), he began manifesting symptoms of an overly stressed man. I feel like Ive tried everything to get us back on track so weve just spoken on the phone & hes going to think about things tonight. He tells me that he loves me very much and I know he does. Ask your boyfriend open-ended questions about how he thinks your relationship is going, and if theres anything you both can do to bring you closer together. So thats why he wasnt there and because his board broke. Open your heart to Jesus; listen to His call on your life. Try to be better. What started as my dream sex life is now I am lucky if we do it once a month and it is usually on his terms, NOT when *I* am in the mood, planned and boring and routine. She threatened to send my bf to jail idk how tho. Hurt Feelings. One of the best things to do when youre confused about your relationship is to pull back and try to see yourself and your boyfriend more objectively. It took him 2 days to notice something. The same month, I started my PhD program but I still made the time to see him. it was only casual dinning places (only three times), other than that, we went out only for coffee. Im slowly giving up but everytime i try to let go he acts like he rlly loves me and he wants me back. He calls me stupid n crazy. Feel like I am too grown for him. Listen to your intuition, it never lies. I stayed because I felt that I deserved to hear those things, I was being enlightened about what others saw in me but were just too polite to say to me. He is separated with 4 kids and a selfish demanding ex wife who took everything she could from him while they were together. Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years. He does not even get up in the morning and brush his teeth, put on deodorant ,etc. I just feel like that is so little reassurance for what would be 7 years together, that we would have the possibility to then just maybe live together. He always used to put his friends before me, lied to me, involved in gangs and drugs. I met this guy 6months ago we were happy and everything was going well, until last week Friday.He went out with his friends and he came back in the morning. He said he is trying to change. So I stated being more involved in his hubbies then usual and listening. This person flakes when we have plans even after I said that Im not here for that. What did you end up doing ? What should I do? I am secretary saving money to leave. I can tell you have much love for him but imagine how good itll be to love someone that has that same love and 10x more for you. I just cant understand or relate to his lack of effort anymore. Any advice would be helpful to me. Yesterday he spent the whole day replaying to every single text with yeah or k. We have a 12 year old daughter. Im still dissatisfied I guess. If your S.O. So, literally, he gives me a quick peck before he goes to work and at least TELLS me he loves me. We did this at least once a week. I would then open a honest discussion about how we both feel when I return. Now my mom did not know about my boyfriend i was afraid to tell her cause she probably wouldnt approve that he didnt go to school. I spend half my time daydreaming about being actually taken care of by someone. I saw him once more and he taught me my first trick. If every word out of your mouth is an insult, a critique, or disparaging remark, your behavior is toxic and negative, and no one, least of all your S.O., wants to hear it. Anyways, he has told me before that he plans to make me his girlfriend, we have great conversations, hes very flirty but the problem is he doesnt text me often or try to call or set up a date. I got upset and she said she was done being friends with me so yeah that happened. These tips actually worked. Like by shouting Im gonna get scared or intimated. So accept that it will be hard, cry about it for a week or two and try to move on with your life and realize that you deserved so much better then that pos. This guy is not considerate at all and does not have your best interest at heart. Any time i initiate sex, he either stiffens up, doenst move or lets out an exasperated sigh. what is the project you have to work on together . I have no family and feel really lonely. The main problem in our relationship is one: I go out of my way for him all the time and apparently that is ok. Especially for someone like me who is lonely all the time. Im so embarassed and devastated plus the sex he didnt touch me but he kiss me but I understand because I only give him minutes. Its time to let him go, you did all you could. It is too immature an attitude for a 56 year old intelligent man. he said its his karma for leaving me behind. I pay d bills, I buy him stuffs give him money, I practically do everything in d relationship . We still work on a project together so its not like I can just cut contact entirely, which I figured might be the reason why he is continuing to text, like he doesnt want things to get uncomfortable between us. I thought hed at least try to make a plan. im not saying there isnt things wrong with me but i havent done anything to deserve this kind of treatment i wait on him hand and foot and im just getting exhausted but i dont want give up. He had agreed we both need to be more positive and would be open to doing little exercises each day. Hi, Your post really reflects on me. Stop yourself from bombarding him with messages. But theres other strange things he does, when we go on dates that require conversation like coffee or dinner, or drives, he doesnt start any conversations. I ask my boyfriend to do simple things like make me a coffee once in while, ask if i got home safe, tell me im beautiful, or just ask me on a date. Since Christmas hes stopped seeing as much, no nice texts, less phone calls he says its not me & its because hes busy with work but even now on a Friday night hes at his place & im at mine. He doesnt tell me he loves me very often, never compliments me, doesnt text or call on the days we are apart and due to his lifestyle and commitments we see each other the same 3 evenings every week, and it has been the same 3 evenings for 3 years with the exception of one or two evening. We may have jumped into it a little fast but we knew each other so well and things were going great. from there we started to be friend. When a partner is heavily distracted by other commitments, tasks, stress, and anxiety, they may find it too challenging to redirect their attentionand they may even be so wrapped up that your needs don't even register. We couldnt go one day without some little thing exploding. He still did not make much of an effort as far as even coming to visit me. Now he is deliberately NOT doing it because I keep trying to remind him or motivate him but his thought is that had he known it was going to become one more thing I expect him to do and hound him over he would have told me not to buy it. He went out and bought 48 roses he surprised me with though out the day for Valentines day and took me out for a really nice dinner- he even planned having sexy time (which got postponed finishing). I randomly always try to put efforts in the relationship but get nothing in return. But the good things about that is, by then you honestly love and care about yourself much more than you do love him. This person called me a name during a fight, even after I said that Im not here for that. Like we will be having a nice time and something sets him off and he just spirals. He ignores you. If he isnt putting any effort in the beginning of the relationship then I think its time to let him go. Its long distance and he is 8 hours ahead of me. LOVE IS AWESOME BUT GUESS WHAT HERE I AM 8 YEARS LATER AND HE STILL DOESNT CLEAN , STILL DRINKS. i yearn for good morning texts or check ins throughout the day. The first few months of the relationship that was a constant and we were dying to see eachother every other weekend. After this last incident, something broke inside of me and I said no more. I miss him and who he use to be,at the same time am preparing myself for the worst! I simply did it because I knew I wasnt perfect and I wanted to become the women I needed to be for him. But things went roughed to both of us.. I had the same thing. months later of constant chats and calls he then confessed that he still love me and he was sorry for what happened in the past. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year now and I just dont know how to feel about things. Then we usually get in an argument and sometimes we break off for about a week. I know that probably sounds silly but his replies are shorter and he doesnt joke around with me like he used to do. Never happened. NO PHONE CALL. And now he hasnt talked to me in almost three weeks. A relationship without dates lacks romance and passion. But he say he is not in happy After this all, at some point he started to chnge himself. I am slowly trying to make new friendships and to enjoy myself with people who love me. Everything now has become a tit-for-tat pissing match competition for control and autonomy. But even after reminding him of that, nothing happen. However, just before christmas time, the same things started to happen again, effort drops off. He is a very patient and calm person. It helped me calm down. Nothing on either Valentines Day (was REALLY pissed the first year, this year I knew I wouldnt get anything so I didnt get him anything either) and on my birthday, he said that he had a present for me at his house, then later said he had to order it. He has recently been stressed about getting into grad school and got denied for his first two school. good luck to you. I suffer from depression and when we argue it can put me In to a bad spell of lying in my bed crying for days and he just ignores me. Recently, despite being together for 5 years, I feel like a booty call. But i couldnt regain my trust for him again. But what?! Now i think ill do my best to be nice to him for some time and if he doesnt change i leave him.. Is it ok for wait and see for his cahnge? Why doesnt he ever randomly surprise me, try to plan out dates, put a lot of thought into gifts, etc. I appreciated it still but it was all cheap and last minute, again lack of effort. Am so confused I dont rilly know what to do . Coz I know he loves me but I dont know what gets over him all of a sudden. I MEAN EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN LIFE BUT I WOULD INSIST ON HIM CHANGING THE DRINKING NOW OR LATER YOU COULD BE LIVING MY LIFE. He never wants to go anywhere or do anything. Hes very sweet and affectionate, so I dont believe its due to him not liking me anymore, but it really confuses me and stresses me out. All I can suggest is continue to be very clear with your communication. How come? Or, ask them for more details. My youngest is a 1 month and when she was about two weeks old he met this girl on a bar while hanging out with his best friend and got her number. We dont barely talk to each other. Sometimes he will notice mistakes I make on the work but not notice how much I need his affection. Stopped fantasies and games and generally sexual desire towards me about 2-3 years ago now, losing track. It had been more than a month since I had last talked to him. He spoiled her before they had kids then stopped completely as the kids needed his resources. I went through a period of unemployment and he was not emotionally supportive through this period. Hes just happy having me in his life because Im supportive and loving but I dont see much effort on his side except when he really wants to do things he really likes. Im the beginning, it was easy. How you approach your boyfriend depends on his personality, your style of communication, and your relationship. Next thing I woke up to a text. I bought him a beautiful set of cufflinks from his university for Christmas. However, he has never been one to put in huge amounts of effort. We fight a lot almost every week because my needs are not met. Yep. I would go on my off days when I wasnt in collehe classes or work. I just want to stop his really hurtful and insensitive way of fighting. I know it was all my fault and wish i could fix things! Even seemingly harmless criticism and patronizing comments, too, can take a toll. I tried discussing that with him, he told me if he was to mess up he would want someone to correct him. He was fine with it so we just started to say it to each other. We spent four weekends together at his place and virtually every day together on a mutual project for a month. Its not that those things arent wonderful, its just that I. If youve been together for a long time (a 7 or 8 on that relationship scale at the beginning of this article), then maybe you can see that your boyfriend isnt making an effort because hes dealing with serious issues in other parts of his life. Weve been together for over a year but known each other for 8 and its a first serious relationship for both of us. Just about two weeks ago, the cycle broke. when it comes to affection, i literally have to initiate everything. Watch YouTube videos on narcissistic boyfriends and you will know how lucky you are to be able to get away from him. Idk what to do anymore. im in the same boat as you and it really sucks. He never posts about me. Just because you have no family, dont let that make him think that he is the one whos there for you and hence, he can decide to love you when he wants to. Im right there with you though, I feel the same way about my bf of 2 years. Over time, it wore away at me, he was only putting back in 10%. Theres a reason why the Geneva Convention bans sleep deprivation as torture What you need to do is make time to get a little bit of rest (and youll actually find that you will become more productive with a little rest too and not have to spend so much time lacking sleep). A Relationship Expert Explains, How to Recognize Signs of Passive-Aggressive Behavior in Your Spouse, Chemistry Between People Depends on These 7 Traits, Signs and Causes of Emotional Neglect in a Marriage and How to Cope, 8 Signs of an Emotionally Unavailable Partner, 16 Signs of Falling in Love That Mean It's Real, How to Stop Being Needy in a Relationship, How to Stop Overthinking Your Relationship, 10 Signs of an Emotionally-Abusive Relationship, How to Ask for a Father's Permission to Marry His Daughter. He nolonger would make as much effort, like call or text to check on me. Would you like to come along? I have brough up some of the issues and he acts clueless and doesnt know what to do. I dont think Ive really shared that with anyone before! or something but dont get mad if he says no just go do it because YOU want to do it Leave him the option, but if he doesnt pick up on it, just enjoy yourself anyways ^~^ cuz you deserve it You are working really hard and deserve to enjoy some time. After my birthday on the 2nd I was 16 and he was 18 (not a big age difference and its not illegal where Im at) and so i wanted to meet him in person. He works constantly and Im a stay at home dog mom (Recently weve been wanting kids). After his birthday he left his sisters and moved in with his mom. This is good advice thanks, Ive been dating my boyfriend for six months now and its been a really hard couple of months for us. Create your own personal world girl. This is NOT the man I fell in love with that I move in with 5.5 years ago. His temper and his childish attitude and how he has to be right all the time. But he would rather break up than try to understand what makes me happy and make an effort. Once I asked him for a selfie and he said no because he thought I only did it to prove something to people. I dont understand why he wouldnt make you diner when you took out all the ingredients. Thanks for letting me vent gals. Its been hard but there are better things to come. I get it Im not a good gamer but I like the company. He Thinks You Are Bored. Just a text. It took several conversations where I told him i needed him to be the one to ask me to meet up and reach out more often, as it made me feel loved. MUCH LOVE!!! It sounds to me like hes not into you. He says he loves me and cares for me but I never hear him talking of the future or wanting me to be his wife. You have to accept the current man in front of you and decide how you want to move forward with who he is in the moment not who he was in the past. Theres always a chance that this will trigger self-reflection, and he will crawl back, and you can decide whether to give a second chance. You can let go slowly at first and just start seeing other people. he nvr wants to go out w me, not even to dinner. Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section below! We no longer sleep in the same bed, he has chosen to sleep on the couch. It has created a balance to where I dont feel exhausted with trying to keep things going. Like, Ive planned 90% of our dates. I asked him to help me move to where he lives the first 2 times he said yes quickly.. We were fine for the first 6 months, then with this virus we havent been able to see each other. He also explained to me that the last time we saw each other that night he walked home and got hit by a car. My bestfriend just wanted to get me with someone so she picked her friend and I told her that I needed to get to know him first and not rush into a relationship so me and this guy stayed up for 24 hours on ft and we kinda just clicked he told me he liked me and I sort of liked him but I told him I still wanted to just keep talking so we did and he was so impatient he just wanted to ask me out so a week later I was like sure and we started dating. Dee, well said and youre 100 percent correct! You need to allow yourself to do something else. I realized how I stopped wearing some clothes because he didnt like them, for example. To me it seems like your boyfriend is causing your anxiety and making you feel down which is not okay at all. And im as asian girl. He bought her a Mothers Day card. i think if i knew he wasnt capable of doing these things i wouldnt feel so strongly. But now that he has you he sees he doesnt have to try anymore. I hate that normal people go out and do fun things. I would have send him through money to pay for the tea, its annoying tho that I know he went out that night and bought all his workmates drinks. He commented on Tues night wed do it the next night so I was completely excited and ready to go at then finally at bedtime he laid there with his eyes closed and when I put the moves on him he told me its time for sleep, that we are just cuddling. Anyway not sure what to do either but it helps to know Im not the only one. I used to be patient but recently Ive been having anger issues and he knows how to handle my mood accordingly. But I really wanted to build connections to his family because aside from him, I dont know anybody. Around my birthday time I started to notice that his effort was there mentally and physically. For the past year and a half he stopped being aggressive after a night out of drinking. Meaning me. 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